Individual Therapy
Reclaim You.
Are You Struggling with Trauma, Anxiety or Grief?
Are you having a hard time letting go of things that happened in the past?
Are you scared to share your feelings with your spouse or family?
Do events from your past impact your current relationships?
Let Us Take Care of You
You can see your own patterns clearly. You know what you do when you’re hurt, you can predict how the argument usually goes before it starts, you’ve read enough and thought about it enough to explain your own history back to yourself. And somehow, in the moments that matter most, none of that understanding stops the old response from taking over anyway.
That gap between knowing yourself and actually changing is where individual therapy comes in. Awareness was never going to be enough on its own. It’s a start, not a solution.
How We Help
Our approach is trauma-informed, which means we’re paying attention to how your history lives in your body and your relationships, not just what you can describe about it in words. We draw on IFS to help you understand the different parts of yourself, including the ones that kept you safe as a child, and the ones that keep you going today. This work meets both what happened to you and how you learned to cope with it, so the change reaches further than insight alone.
Specialty Areas
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It's Okay to Ask for Help: Therapy for Women
You know exactly what the people around you need, often before they do. You read the room, you anticipate, you show up with the right thing at the right moment. You are the one people count on. At work, with your clients, for your kids, for whoever in your life needs steadiness, you’re the one who shows up capable and holds things together. Then you get home, or you let someone get close, and being needed starts to feel a lot easier than being known.
Not because you don’t have needs, but because you never learned how to notice them, let alone ask for them to be met.
You can be exceptional at taking care of everyone around you and still have no idea how to let someone take care of you. That’s not a contradiction. It’s what happens when a nervous system learns, early and thoroughly, that being useful is safer than being vulnerable.
You want to feel taken care of instead of just useful. You want closeness that doesn’t require you to manage it from the outside. You want to stop being the person who’s fine, even when you’re not.
This can look like going quiet in an argument, not because you’re calm but because some part of you decided long ago that needing things out loud wasn’t safe. It can look like knowing everyone else’s needs by heart and drawing a blank on your own. It can look like apologizing for taking up space in your own relationship, or lying next to someone who loves you and still feeling entirely alone.
None of that means you’re broken or ungrateful. It means the strategy that made you so good, so relied on by everyone around you, is the same one that’s making closeness so hard.
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For High-Achieving Men
You built the life you wanted. You worked hard, proved yourself, kept climbing. Somewhere along the way you expected all of that to eventually feel like enough, and it hasn’t.
You know how to get through things. You’ve handled pressure and setbacks before, situations that would have leveled other people, and you did what you always do: you kept moving. Right now is different, and getting through it the way you get through everything else isn’t working the way it used to.
You want to stop living two lives, the one people see and the one you keep inside. You want success to cost you less than it currently does, but you want to know that, looking at all of this won’t take away the parts of you that work.
This can show up as a surprising lack of satisfaction after a win you really wanted. This might look like staying busy enough that you don’t have to notice what you are avoiding. It can show up as an irritability that doesn’t makes sense and makes you feel guilty. It might look like answering “how are you doing”; on autopilot. Or maybe lying awake running numbers and deadlines that have nothing to do with why you actually can’t sleep.
No amount of winning fixes a problem that was never actually about winning. You learned early to cope by pushing things down and pushing through, and that skill built the career and the reputation you have now. It just doesn’t allow you space for the feelings underneath, not that you’d really know what to do with them when they surface.
None of that makes you weak or ungrateful. It means a strategy that once kept you moving has stopped being enough on its own. Individual counseling can help without unraveling the very things that make you good at your job.
Some Concerns You May Have About Therapy
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We understand that therapy is a financial investment. You are worth it. We are on some insurance panels and offer some reduced fee appointments to try to make therapy as accessible and affordable as possible.
We can file out of network for BCBS, United Healthcare, UMR, Optum Behavioral Health, Cigna and Tricare.
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Talking to an unbiased person and revealing the whole picture is the first step to getting help. Everyone struggles in life, and the healthiest among us are brave enough to get help.
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You give so much to others, it’s time to make time for yourself and show that you are also a priority. You must put on your own oxygen mask before you can be of assistance to those you love. We also offer evening appointments for client convenience.
Different Starting Points, Same Kind of Work
Achievement and self-sacrifice don’t look alike from the outside. Underneath, they often run on the same mechanism: a strategy that worked once, kept working long past its usefulness, and is now standing between you and the life you actually want. We’re not here to take that strategy away from you. We’re here to help you need it less.